Oren Jay Sofer – Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication 2018-10-22T19:13:22-06:00

Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication

Oren Jay Sofer

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What You’ll Learn

  • Learn the elements of nonviolent communication, and why mindfulness is such an essential and valuable component of interpersonal relationships and education

  • See examples of how you can use nonviolent communication in the classroom, and follow along in a guided practice to hone your communication skills by reflecting on your own needs

  • Hear tips on how to communicate with others who might be challenging to interact with and learn how to react in line with your values

About Oren Jay Sofer

Oren Jay Sofer has practiced mindfulness since 1997 and teaches meditation and communication nationally. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, is a member of the Spirit Rock Teacher’s Council, a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for healing trauma. Oren serves as the Senior Program Developer at Mindful Schools and is author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication.

Check out Oren's new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, and his online course, Next Step Dharma.

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  1. Cristina Anton October 28, 2018 at 4:33 am - Reply

    Great speech! Thank you! My experience taught me that personal values and needs are very important for an individual and that we action according to those values and needs. In communication they have a crucial role in order to be understood as a whole.

  2. Frances Ku October 22, 2018 at 2:26 pm - Reply

    Excellent, thank you. Another thing to keep in mind is if you come across an individual who perceives getting his/her needs met through being dictatorial and is not willing to collaborate upon being invited to do so, you have to be prepared to accept it and come to terms with that.

  3. Vanna Harvey October 22, 2018 at 12:54 pm - Reply

    This is so educational I could relate to your personal experience in school as far as understanding how the topic would be useful to the student in the future. How you explained connecting with the student who was talking in class was wonderful and I can see how significant this approach would be to engaging with the individual. I believe mindfulness is school is essential going forward, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and knowledge.

  4. marilena October 22, 2018 at 6:19 am - Reply

    thank you

  5. Diadel Ortiz October 21, 2018 at 4:51 pm - Reply

    Wow!!! What a good introducation about a mindful approach to non-volient communication. This was so informative. The ways we can use this plus the connections between mindful practices. I will definately get this book and I am looking to start the course. Thank you Oren!!!

  6. Katie October 21, 2018 at 4:07 pm - Reply

    Thank you Oren! I appreciated the guided practice

  7. Ba October 21, 2018 at 2:53 pm - Reply

    Oren, Listening deeply, I’m hearing you express the sadness you feel that you did not experience yourself as having an opportunity through elementary and high school teachers in our compulsory education system to engage in ways that would have brought the kind of ease that comes from having a knowledge base in areas with which we resonate. As an elder now, who was one of those teachers for learners like yourself, I often feel sad that I, on the other hand had an anguished longing to give what I knew we all needed intuitively, and yet lacked the training, and the tools to be effective action. Mindfulness and NVC support me to grieve, until one day there will be No More Tears. Seeing how you are now a future expression of that unfulfilled boy and youth, taking actions to shift through your engagement as an awarized young man bringing about potentials for fulfillment fo many, somehow eases the pain for me, and allows me to know I can choose to continue to make peace, in the now moment, in which new futures will be drawn into our orbits, through the actions we choose, which changes the way I perceive my actions or choices in my pasts. I want to free myself up from the sorrow of those pasts, and come into the Now, where more options open up to all of us. Thank you for the quality of what you share, and foro your deep commitment to Success as you define it. May the Long Time Sun Shine Upon You and All of humanity.

  8. Gloria Sanford-Breton October 21, 2018 at 10:03 am - Reply

    Bravo! Thank you so much for this Oren! I have taken your Mindful Communication course through MS and I cannot wait to read your book! This particular webinar is so beneficial for educators….really getting to the crux of issues encountered in the classroom. Much gratitude to you for your willingness to share this important work.

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